Amidst a growing number of concerns both in this community and in the community of Christ's believers in general, we want to speak out against something extremely important. Domestic violence.
Being hurt in your home is never ok. There are three pervasive forms of abuse that happen in marriages - mental, emotional and physical. If you are specifically facing physical abuse you must remember that being hurt by your partner is NOT God's best for your life. Please take a moment to read through these suggested steps to begin to take the control back in your relationship. To begin to live in Christ's freedom once again.
1. Alert your local authorities. Ideally, this is the police department in your area. Should they be corrupt, seek out assistance from a local organization that is well versed and will help to keep you safe. You must call the authorities first. Church leaders (unless they are also law enforcement) are not first responders and cannot provide the type of protection that you will need to escape this abuse.
2. Contact your church. The church is to serve as a shelter and a caretaker for those that are being wounded. Leaders of your local gathering should believe that Jesus would NEVER hurt His bride. They have the mandate to care for the hurting and broken. Hopefully, your local church believes this as well. If you are being abused and suspect that your leaders are not lining up with the word of God (see scriptures below) you must seek other Godly assistance. Please note that mental and emotional abuse may take an additional measure oof scrutiny (or therapy) to determine the best course of action. However, you should NEVER be told that ANY FORM of physical abuse is ever to be tolerated.
3. Know what the Bible Says About Abuse.
We believe in working towards mutual marital partnerships that will fulfill God's ultimate design for your marriage. We also believe this valuable quote from another author
"Love is more than mere feelings or sentiment but is expressed in actions that reflect that love. Similarly, God’s intentions for the marriage relationship are companionship and mutual help (Genesis 2:18), ongoing physical relationship that comprises one flesh relationship (Genesis 2:24), and mutual respect, love, and caring (Ephesians 5:21-33) (Brown, 1979, Vol. 3, p. 539)."
"Domestic violence is in stark opposition to God’s plan for families. Genesis 1 and 2 depict marriage as a one-flesh, helping
relationship. Ephesians 5:21 talks about mutual submission. Ephesians 5:22–24 explains a wife’s submissiveness to her husband, while verses 25–33 talk about a husband’s self-sacrificial love for his wife. First Peter 3:1–7 gives similar instructions. First Corinthians 7:4 says, “The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” The two belong to one another and are called to love one another as Christ loved us. Marriage is an image of Christ and the Church. Domestic violence is a far cry from the character of Jesus."
You cannot fix your abuser. It is not a divinely given mission to help them work out their sinful habits. These are lies from hell. In this article, you will find some common lies that victims of abuse believe as well as what our Lord has to say about them.
4. Get Help Now: Don't wait friends. You are too important to the Lord. We are praying for your safety, God's grace and His protection to be with you.
International Help: http://www.866uswomen.org/